Think back to a time when you were completely in your element and felt like a total boss. Were you out of your comfort zone, doing something new that terrified you? Chances are: no.
We tend to feel most confident when we play to our strengths, feel competent, have proven examples of success, and feel both valued and validated. The things we find easy are often the things we're naturally skilled at. And because they come easy to us, we're sometimes inclined to think they're less valuable.
There's a major difference between making small incremental improvements and beating ourselves up for not being good enough at things that aren't our natural strengths.
Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, professor at University College London and Columbia University, says talent is really personality in the right place. "When you match people to environments or roles that are congruent with their skills, knowledge, and assets, they will do better," he says.