Carol Dweck outlines four steps to develop and build a growth mindset.
The first step is actually listening and recognising what the voice in your head is saying, and what kind of mindset it’s using. If it’s saying, “I can’t do this” or “I’m no good at this”, then you’re in a fixed mindset.
Next, it’s about realising you have control when it comes to your mindset, and making the active choice to approach the situation differently.
The third step is replying to a fixed mindset with a growth one. So if you think, “I’ve completely failed at this”, then you need to correct yourself and say, “I should come back more rested tomorrow and have another go." Talk to yourself like you would coach someone else through that situation.
The final step is taking a growth mindset action. If you’re really struggling with something – like writing a report at work – it’s good to stop, take a breath, and go outside for a walk. Or if you haven’t eaten for a while, maybe your blood sugar levels are low, so stop for a snack. It's not saying, “I can't”; it's saying, “I can, but just not right at this moment in time”. Then making sure you come back to give it another go later.