Brené Brown, a research professor in social work and human connection, states in her book Gifts of Imperfection that people are “biologically, cognitively, physically and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.” When we aren’t connected to other people, we can feel isolated and undervalued, yet when we feel connected, our mental wellbeing is strengthened, reinforced and nourished.
There are billions of people on the planet, and even though we might interact with several people in our day, we can all still feel lonely and isolated from time to time. It’s when you actively engage with people, by putting down your phone, turning away from the screen and looking them in the eye, that you truly nurture and develop the relationship. Having meaningful connections is about being present.
Connectivity is a two-way street, so it’s vital that you're both giving and receiving. If you feel that a relationship with someone isn’t having a positive influence on your life, then make the conscious decision to distance yourself. It is ok to say no and to put yourself first.
Making a deliberate choice to only allow positive and encouraging people into your inner sanctum will help to raise your confidence, and improve your motivation and your resilience. Being around supportive people empowers you to bring about positive change for yourself and others.