The most important and valuable tool I have in my toolbox is my ability to be emotionally connected. In real terms, that means I give myself permission to feel all of the emotions: happiness, joy, love, sadness, vulnerability and despair (and the rest!).
I think for a lot of us, men in particular, crying is associated with weakness. But that’s a fundamentally flawed way of thinking, and it’s causing a lot of stress in people’s lives. Crying is a completely natural response to a stressful experience.
We listen to our body when it tells us we’re hungry, or thirsty, or even scared – and we should listen to it when it tells us that we need to release our emotions, too. That’s what crying is, a release, and the notion of being soft of weak for crying is flawed. Ignoring or supressing emotions risks increasing the amount of stress we’re feeling and, to be blunt, it’s just not worth it.
We need to give ourselves permission to experience and express all of our emotions. Being vulnerable is part of who we are, and there’s strength in accepting that.