Learning how to stop
I teach the STAR technique when I’m doing workshops with corporate executives. It’s amazing that when you challenge these high-performing people to list the different ways they can stop – they don’t know how to do it.
With that in mind, here are some strategies you can use as effective stops. These are skills that should be in everyone’s toolkit. Think of them as your first line of defence against making emotion-led decisions. The more you practise implementing these, the more naturally they will come when you need them.
1. Focus on your breathing for 10 seconds.
2. Clench and unclench your fists.
3. Excuse yourself to the bathroom for a few minutes.
4. Suggest that everyone return to this situation at a later date.
5. Agree to disagree.
6. Suggest continuing the conversation over a cup of tea.
7. Go for a walk around the block.
8. Acknowledge that you need a few minutes to think about the situation at hand.