It’s not as though you’re born with resilience. I think it’s easy to look at someone else and think, “Oh, they’re such a resilient person, they’re just born with it!”. But the reality is that resilience is something we have to build and cultivate.
Our strategies and practices are likely to develop over time as we evolve personally and professionally. For many people, resilience is developed through the experience of and exposure to hardship and adversity. This global pandemic is an example, but so too is the trauma that comes from something like a car accident.
But we can choose to cultivate our resilience through daily practises – such as mindfulness, self-awareness, embracing flexible thinking, and reframing your narrative from negative to positive.
I had parents who were very resilient, and I was fortunate to be exposed to their behaviours. Their resilience wasn’t in the sporting domain, it was more in the way they approached their lives – they were hard working, they wouldn’t let financial issues be a setback, and they would always find solutions to whatever problems they faced. My dad also recovered from having polio as a child.
As a kid, whether you realise it or not, you end up soaking a lot of that up. I now think about that as a parent: how do I want to model that kind of behaviour for my son?