More and more organisations are acknowledging this difficulty, and there are growing resources tailored for men who are dealing with depression. There’s Headspace, beyondblue, MensLine Australia; HeadsUpGuys in Canada, a resource funded by the Movember Foundation; and The Lions Barber Collective in the UK, a group of barbers creating safe spaces for men to open up about depression.
But what if you’re on the other side of the conversation? Seeing a friend, colleague or child demonstrate and struggle with the symptoms of depression? What if they’re reluctant to talk about it?
“It’s important for people going into those conversations to be aware that they don’t have to have all the answers,” says Nick.
“They don’t have to be the expert. In that conversation, don’t drop into problem-solving mode,” he suggests.
It’s much more important to listen, non-judgmentally, and show empathy.
“Listening is far more likely to help that person feel comfortable to talk more about stuff that’s going on with them,” says Nick.
“And if it gets to that stage where you’re thinking, ‘This is really far out of my depth, I don’t know if I can keep this person safe’, then that’s when you’d encourage them to seek professional help.”